If your event is formal, there is different protocol than a less formal, or casual event. The following guidelines are for a formal event:
- First, double check the names and addresses on your guest list before the envelopes are addressed, to be sure everything is spelled correctly.
- Purchase a good quality ink pen to use; you may need more than one. Use black ink only. Always hand write addresses rather than using computer generated labels. They not only look better, they also feel more special to your guests.
- Invitations are always addressed to both members of a married couple. Example: Mr. and Mrs. Christian Belmont
- An invitation to an unmarried couple residing at the same address should be addressed with each name on a separate line.
Example: Mr. Christian Belmont
Miss Vera Houston
- No abbreviations or initials are used when addressing formal invitations. Spell out all street names (Street, Lane, Circle, North, South, etc.) as well as the state.
- If children are invited and are not receiving a separate invitation (because they are young children still living at home), their names may be written on a line below their parents’ names on the inner envelope. If no inner envelope is used, children’s names are written on the outer envelope below the names of their parents.
Example: Mr. and Mrs. Christian Belmont
Jonathan, Stephen and Elisabeth Belmont
You should also carefully consider where you want your RSVPs sent. Remember, unless you include a response card or list a different RSVP address inside the invitation, responses and gifts are likely to be sent to the return address on the outer envelope. This is a great way for either the mother of the bride or the groom to get involved. It is a big job, managing the guest list, and it will take a lot of stress and worry off the both of you if you can count on sosomeone else to take care of this for you.